Foreplay Fundamentals: 5 Tips To Build Passion and Prolong Pleasure

Intimacy and the topics around the same are no longer taboo. Having the proper knowledge about sex, pleasure, and what excites your partner can make your bond stronger. There might be times when you do want your act of love to last longer. But how often does it last as per your wish? Sex is not just intercourse; it is a series of acts that you both enjoy. These might be cuddling, kissing, holding hands, or even some naughty talk with your partner. All these activities are called pregame or foreplay.

You both might be in the mood for it and would want to enjoy sex for a longer time. You may not always jump directly at ‘intercourse’ but indulge in all the activities leading towards it. Foreplay is as essential as the final act, and enjoying the course helps attain maximum satisfaction for both partners.

Foreplay helps spike the already existing sexual tension with some passionate moves and steamy actions. Foreplay is subjective and depends on individual likes and preferences. We all do not look at it the same way. What arouses someone might not arouse others and vice versa. And foreplay also varies by gender. While it often leads to intercourse, same-sex couples might see foreplay as the main event to reach orgasm.

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Benefits of Foreplay:

Foreplay helps couples explore each other and enjoy themselves during the act rather than just rushing to finish it. Here are a few benefits of foreplay that can make people rethink if they do not believe in it.

• Increases Excitement: Foreplay increases feel-good hormones such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, lowering stress and enhancing pleasure during sex.
• Prepares Your Body: It assists in increasing blood flow to the genitals, making sex more enjoyable and reducing pain during intercourse.
• Extends the Experience: Performing different activities, such as oral sex or self-stimulation, can slow down orgasm, prolonging your experience.
• Increases Emotional Connection: Foreplay creates intimacy, which leads to a stronger connection between partners.
• Reduces Inhibitions: Both partners feel more relaxed and calm, which makes sex more comfortable and enjoyable.
• Increases Chances of Orgasm: Foreplay is what helps most individuals have an orgasm, particularly women, because it might not happen with intercourse.

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Myths About Foreplay:

Let’s bust some myths most people have about foreplay.

• It’s Not Laziness: When there’s no foreplay, it’s usually not because one is selfish but rather inexperienced or lacks sexual confidence.
• Foreplay Is for Everybody: Foreplay is enjoyed by all genders, irrespective of them being cis, bigender, or straight person.
• Foreplay Is Not Just Oral Sex: Foreplay is beyond oral sex. This also includes kisses, massages, and indulging in sex toys for fun.

• It Isn’t Always Physiological: Waiting and psychological closeness, such as sexting, can be integral to establishing an erotic mood.
• No Time Limits: The optimal time for foreplay differs, yet typically it’s about 20 minutes for both, not necessarily dependent on gender.

If you’ve reached here, and are secretly wishing to know some effective tips on prolonging the foreplay, here are a few steamy tips from us. Let’s go!

How to Get Your Partner Aroused

As mentioned, foreplay varies for each person. Understanding what your partner loves to see or do, or even get done to them, might help you arouse them faster. Often, we miss the point and jump to the chase, which might leave our partner feeling unsatisfied or frustrated. This can hamper relationships and spoil their mood. However, with our tips, you can leave your partner mesmerized and ready for action.

Few Tips On How To Prolong Foreplay

Let’s come to the point with a few tips you can enjoy with your partner longer. Here are a few tips on prolonging the foreplay:

1Select The Right Fragrance:

Getting ready for the act not only means slipping into that revealing lingerie but also using a fragrance that lingers. Use a scent/fragrance that you or your partner love. Be generous and do not forget to dab or spray it on various parts of your body including the back, neck, shoulders, armpits, or near the navel. This not only boosts mood but the lingering smell also makes your partner feel your presence even after the act.

We suggest using a particular scent for the act every time, as this helps your partner get in the mood faster as they connect to it.

2Use Sex Toys:

Start experimenting with sex toys, if you haven’t already. Firstly, you must have a conversation about this with your partner and opt for a sex toy that excites you both. And, if you are someone who likes to surprise, gift them one! The idea behind sex toys is the new dimension it adds to your game and makes the entire experience more pleasurable.

As Grady Shumway, a licensed mental health counselor rightly emphasized starting this discussion with your partner, and creating a non-judgemental space where both partners feel heard, is all that matters.

3Kiss Of Love:

When it comes to foreplay, kissing can never be enough. It might be true for most of us that we always remember our first kiss. Kissing is a way to ignite that passion and take things to the next level quickly. And by kissing, we do not mean just the lips. Kiss your partner on various parts of their body, and enjoy watching them arouse. Go all out with kisses and do not tone things down. From subtle kisses to a deep lip lock, a kiss can be an excellent way to prolong foreplay.

Read More: How to Reignite Passion in Your Relationship after Years Together.

4Gentle Massage is The Key:

Imagine your partner tired and weary after a long day of work. There’s no better way to make them relaxed and get in a mood for love than massage. A gentle massage can not just be a stress reliever but also releases tension in the muscles and joints, making both of you ready for the act. It’s a win-win for you and them, as it also gives you enough chances to touch them and make a move. A sensual touch around certain areas will make them want it more, thus delaying the foreplay and, ultimately, intercourse.

5Use Technology:

Foreplay doesn’t always start on the bed or couch, or even when together. You can also start it subtly by sending flirty texts (or sexts), talking dirty on calls, or sharing secret fantasies via messages. These things help build excitement and make your partner await the main act. Use technology to your advantage as it helps prolong foreplay, build intimacy, and foster a deep bond with your partner.

6Final Thoughts:

All in all, foreplay is a process that starts much before intercourse. It not just gives you pleasure but makes you charged for the intimate moments to come. The art of seduction is simple: do what you both enjoy doing, seeing, and feeling. Ensure you do not jump into the act by indulging in these small yet effective foreplay techniques and make love that’s enjoyable and not painful for your partner.

If you’re looking for tips to spice up your romantic life, we hope these help you.  Remember to prioritize intimacy, indulge in foreplay, and enjoy for a longer time!

• Aug 2016
  Written by Abhro Bhattacharjee
• Mar 2025
  Edited by Vaishnavi